Personal experience, before July 2008+2065438, I felt that my life was low, my feelings were unstable, my job changed, and my life was very bad. My whole state is restless, my health is sub-healthy and I feel a lot of discomfort. Then at the end of July, my family became ill, and it took less than three days from the examination to the diagnosis of terminal illness. It's like people are dragged into hell, and it's dark.
Ah, so this is the darkest moment of life. It is too painful to see the fragility of human beings, the goodness and evil of human nature, and the struggle between life and death in the hospital ward. Now I think of standing in the corridor outside the intensive care unit in the early morning, and my bones are cold.
After more than 9 months, people still didn't hold on and left forever. For the first time, I was so close to death that I knew that life was meaningless. Love, marriage, friends, work and making money are important but not so important. There is really no need to ask too much. The most important thing is to be healthy, not get sick, strive for others, act if you want, and continue to work hard. Be kind to yourself and your family, that's enough!
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At this moment, life has changed, and it is inevitable that professional feelings will be affected by the epidemic, so adjust your mentality from the following aspects.
First, strengthen your self-confidence. A wise life is to learn to overcome difficulties when there are difficulties. Self-confidence is the basis for overcoming difficulties and obstacles.
Second, learn to decompress and let yourself find a suitable or promising goal to study hard while staying optimistic and positive, so as to relieve the pressure and find new goals.
Third, don't vent your frustration and unhappiness on your girlfriend or family, but show your firmness, strength and courage, so that people around you can rely on and trust you.
Fourth, we should establish the consciousness and concept of continuous progress, which not only shows that we have ideals and enterprising spirit, but more importantly, we should realize them. If we persist, this kind of consciousness and concept will lead you to success.
Talking about my life experience will touch my friends:
8 1 after I left the army, my family prepared a house and a daughter-in-law and asked me whether to get married or go to college. I didn't eat or drink. I thought about the college entrance examination all day. I went to the commune as a temporary worker, and tied my bike with paper boxes to recite English words. The economy is in trouble. Later, I studied with the school for a year and succeeded in the college entrance examination. Before the exam, I only knew more than 20 letters of basic English, Pythagorean theorem in mathematics and Chinese conjunctions. But through hard work, I succeeded.
At work, it was common for me to go to work at six or seven o'clock in the morning and go home at eleven or twelve o'clock in the evening in those years when Hong Kong returned to China in 1997. I was framed as a leader younger than Sesame, and I was already dead. But people should have backbone. I survived and asked to be on duty on March 8 and do some part-time work after work, which is quite good. It's called being a hero.
In 20 10, China Unicom was integrated. I couldn't do a part-time job, so I started practicing calligraphy again. It's amazing that my friends can see my work until now.
In other words, it is normal to encounter difficulties and setbacks. A person's life is not always smooth. Learning to overcome and overcome is the winner of life.
People who know me now regard my work as Zuo Youming who overcomes difficulties. Seeing my work makes me more courageous and energetic.
In other words, learning to find goals and role models is infinite.
Guess what often happens in your life now: children are constantly making trouble, lovers (lovers) love to lose their temper and throw things, and two people will quarrel over some particularly inexplicable things, and then ignore each other in anger or spend money willfully ... Is there a feeling of "this is my life, I don't care, I won't talk about you, because no one can change anyone"?
These are common deviant behaviors in the process of disillusionment of intimate relationships, which can be summarized into four types:
From "eye-catching" to "power struggle", to "revenge psychology" and finally "self-exile", there is really a feeling of despair.
But it doesn't matter. Because each of us is an independent individual and has the ability to pursue happiness, you don't need some attention or special care from your spouse.
So, calm down and think about what you really need in your heart (don't be bothered by external needs), and then listen to your heart to do things.
Don't complain, don't blame others, and don't try to reform each other.
The best way is to respond to all the pain with love.
Suppose you love her at the moment, what would you do?
Finally, I wish you sunshine in life and flowers in full bloom!
When you feel bad, here are some suggestions:
First, slow yourself down and let your brain relax. I don't know if you have heard of the law of attraction: you should be careful with your thoughts, your thoughts will become your language, your words will become your actions, your actions will become your habits, and your habits will become your destiny! ! !
Therefore, the first step is to slow down and see which link is out of order.
Part two, stop. Sometimes when you go the wrong way, it is also the right choice to stop. At this time, give yourself some time, a space, let yourself empty, and let bad luck leave you.
Third, after enough rest, you should learn to experience more new things and see more beautiful and wonderful things. You should know that what you see in your eyes and what you experience in your heart is your life. From another angle, you should see wonderful things and start to attract your good luck.
Fourth, trust your intuition. Sometimes intuition is quite right.
Fifth, keep a positive and optimistic attitude, knowing that good luck and good mood go hand in hand. Get ready for your good luck!
Hello! My friend, I understand your feelings at this moment. I also had a period in middle age. I feel exhausted, my career is in a bottleneck, I am in a bad mood, and I don't have a smile when I go home, which makes the family atmosphere very low. I asked myself, what's wrong with you? Is this me? I re-examine myself and let my mood calm down slowly.
Calm down and zero yourself.
1) Faced with the embarrassment of my career, I asked my superiors to take a break for a while, and the leader quickly approved it. I traveled with my family for half a month. The scenery along the road and the happiness of my family made me feel extremely relaxed, and the atmosphere became peaceful and pleasant. After traveling, I made a good analysis of myself, and listed what knowledge my technical level needs to supplement, what deficiencies my management level still has, and what aspects I need to charge. Finally, I made a decision that I would study to supplement my knowledge.
Second, return to the family.
Family is a harbor where each of us can rest. As the saying goes, every family has its own problems. If you don't read this book well, you will lose half your life. After arranging my work, I made a family rule for myself. At home, I want to relax wholeheartedly, don't talk about work-related things, and never bring home the emotions at work. There is no right or wrong in the family. When encountering problems, communicate more and discuss more. There is no problem that cannot be solved.
I think when both career and emotion encounter problems, we should first calm down, analyze the problems and make a decision as soon as possible. In fact, no matter where it is wrong, whether it is family or career,
Everyone should change themselves and be their best. Don't be confused, live one day at a time.
I hope my answer is helpful to you.
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I'm glad to answer this question. I used to feel the same way. At that time, someone told me that when your heart changed, the world changed. Although I don't believe it, I will adjust it according to the suggestion. As time goes by, my world will really change inexplicably. I will share with you:
1. Find something that makes you happy: when you are depressed, you should improve your magnetic field and find something distracting. Believe me, when you are in a good mood, many things will get better;
2. Those who can't beat us make us stronger: although there are many difficulties in life, many times we even come together to analyze and choose what we can break through at present;
3. vent your emotions well. Don't be patient: choose a way that you can accept to vent your emotions well. Don't bear it. Venting emotions is also a way of healing. Your emotions will be completely released, and your new world will gradually come to you!
I hope the above sharing can help you, and I look forward to seeing you radiant as soon as possible!
Hello, I hope my answer can help you!
I used to be so confused and tired, and I always felt that everything was unsatisfactory! How did I adjust?
One: Adjust the mentality
This is very important! The environment is created by the heart, and a good mood will get twice the result with half the effort. The key is that many times we are easily immersed in the state of being happy for things and sad for ourselves, and it is difficult to achieve a real normal heart and good mood. At this time, I forced myself to be happy today, and the first subconscious gave myself such an idea and strengthened it constantly. You know, no matter how good you are, there are always people who don't like you, and no matter how bad you are, there are always people who love you. Face up to what you are suffering now!
Two: learn to smile.
Force yourself to laugh, force yourself to laugh. When you get up in the morning, smile in the mirror and tell yourself that it will be a beautiful day. This is not a Q. Everyone you meet when you go out will smile. Whether you know it or not, you will find that you will get a smile, too. Someone once did an experiment. At the exit of the airport, he smiled at the passengers who came out, and 95% of the passengers would smile back. Although he doesn't know you, don't frown. Life owes us nothing. The more you are in a bad state, the more you should smile. Master Xing Yun said that smiling can liberate troubled people, encourage tired people and comfort sad people, so learn to smile first.
Third, change the external living conditions.
You can change your hair style and buy two or three new clothes to keep yourself fresh and energetic. Spend a day cleaning, adjusting the layout of the home and bringing your family. Everyone has a sense of participation, and then after cleaning, they have a big meal with their families and enjoy the happiness after work. Or make a small plan, go out to play, not too far away, find a quiet place, take a walk by yourself, see the scenery, see the living conditions of others, and be a bystander.
Four: adjust the pace of work
Learning list. Things get messy when they pile up together. When you are only bored, you need to calm down, make a list, write down ten things you have to do recently, and then prioritize and choose the three most important things to do.
Five: learn to speak.
Yes, many people are used to taking all the responsibilities, at work and emotionally. At this time, you should trust your colleagues, your family, talk to each other, and communicate your confusion and pressure with everyone. Maybe you are feeling that terrible things can be easily solved by others!
Finally, tell a short story. There lived an old monk and a young monk on the mountain. Life on the mountain is very difficult. The little monk is very upset every day. He can't eat well and sleep well. He asked the old monk, what do you do every day? The old monk replied to eat and sleep, and the young monk asked, I also eat and sleep. Why am I very upset every day? The old monk told the young monk that I just want to eat when I eat, and everything is delicious. When I sleep, I just want to sleep and have a good sleep.
Come on, it's not easy to live a simple life. Many times, we think too much, but our hearts don't move. What will wind do to me? If you don't hurt, the years will be fine.
I used to take care of the children alone. I was depressed when my child was four or five months old, but it shouldn't be too serious. At least I know I'm not normal At that time, I forced myself to take my children downstairs every day, even if I just pushed a cart on the side of the road, a row of green plants on the side of the road became the object of my talk. Because I was afraid that others would think I was talking to myself, I held the child in my arms and told them that this was grass and this was a bug.