Control emotions, control health.
There is a simple experiment to study the influence of emotions on health. Emma, an American physiologist, inserted a glass tube into a container filled with ice-water mixture at zero degrees Celsius to collect "soda water" exhaled by people with different moods. The results show that the water condensed by exhaled air in calm is clear and transparent, colorless and free of impurities. If you are angry, purple precipitation will appear. The researchers injected this "angry water" into the mouse, and a few minutes later, the mouse actually died.
Many times, we are optimistic and happy, but sad and angry emotions often accompany us. This is a common occurrence in daily life, and we have long been accustomed to it. Sometimes, we can control them, but sometimes, there is nothing we can do. So, can we learn to understand and deal with our emotions? ?
Experts think we can do it. Moreover, experts also suggest that we should do so. Facing the setbacks in life, getting through emotional depression and returning to a harmonious life can bring us a healthy life. Emotion is closely related to the meaning people give to events, things, environments, people and experiences, so it can be controlled. ?
We all have basic emotional needs, such as the need to communicate and express with others. Some medical studies believe that emotions and emotions are a biological response of our bodies. These five emotions: pain, anger, fear, happiness and love are directly related to our bodies. The first three emotions are usually considered as "dangerous" emotions, indicating that danger is happening or about to happen; The latter two are "happy" emotions. Happiness and love tell us that we can relax and enjoy, and our needs can be met. ?
When people face those "dangerous" emotions, if they are not relieved in time, these emotions may turn into despair, and these emotions are related to cancer and other dangerous diseases. If these emotions bother you, you will feel less happiness and love accordingly. ?
Although there are many human emotions, almost all of them are based on these five emotions. In order to benefit from positive emotions, we need to learn to control our emotions. But that doesn't mean you need to be in an emotional vacuum. Controlling your emotions means that you can change your unhealthy emotions by charging yourself and having healthy beliefs about yourself, life and the world. These beliefs will bring us a healthier mood and mentality, such as courage, tolerance and sympathy. ?
Scientists have found that the emotional center of the brain is directly connected with the immune system. A healthy mood can help people resist infections, colds and flu. It is not uncommon to rely on a healthy attitude to overcome diseases, and those emotions of fear, fear and despair will make diseases worse and even lead to death. ?
Emotion determines success or failure.
Many things we do are influenced by emotions. Because our feelings can bring us great achievements and great failures, we must understand that to control our feelings, the first thing to do is to know what stimulates our feelings. We can divide these feelings into seven negative emotions and seven positive emotions. ?
These seven negative emotions are: fear, hatred, anger, greed, jealousy, revenge and superstition?
The seven positive emotions are love, sex, hope, confidence, sympathy, optimism and loyalty?
The above 14 emotions are the key to the success or failure of your life planning. Their combination can be meaningful or confusing, which is entirely up to you. ?
Each of the above emotions is related to mentality, which is why we have always emphasized mentality. These emotions are actually a reflection of personal mentality, which is the object you can organize, guide and completely control. ?
You must control your thoughts. You must be alert to all kinds of emotions generated in your thoughts and accept or reject them according to whether their influence on your mind is good or bad. ?
Optimism will enhance your self-confidence and flexibility, while hatred will make you lose your tolerance and sense of justice. If you can't control your emotions, your life will be troubled by emotional impulses from time to time. ?
If you are trying to control your emotions, you can prepare a chart and write down the number of times you experience and control your emotions every day. This method will help you understand the frequency and power of emotional attacks. Once you find the factors that stimulate your emotions, you can take action to get rid of them, or find them and make full use of them. ?
Turning your desire for success into a strong persistent idea and starting to achieve your clear goals are two basic elements of your ability to learn to control your emotions. These two basic elements are complementary. If one element progresses, the other element will also progress. ?
It is inevitable that you will encounter various setbacks, grievances and misunderstandings in your work. You should learn to control this emotion well, laugh it off when you encounter any big grievances, and never complain to anyone again. ?
Fight against negative work emotions.
At work, how can we not let "small things" affect our working mood? ?
Face criticism calmly-after hearing others' criticism, repeat sentences in your mind in a slow and calm voice to isolate sensitive voices, which will help you concentrate on accepting the actual information in the information. ?
◆ Face sensitive information calmly-Many people will feel uneasy and even lose sleep when facing the cold faces of colleagues. In this case, you can say to yourself, "His shortcoming is that he doesn't know how to be kind to others. I don't have this shortcoming. I am more popular with my friends. " This kind of self-comfort can ease the mood. ?
I firmly believe that I can make progress-when faced with major work problems, it is inevitable that I will be disheartened and affect my work mood and efficiency. Adversity is easy to make people feel weak. When you don't think of an effective solution, think about it. You must have a good way to encourage yourself not to be depressed. ?
Emotional thermometer: Write down your mood swings.
In Japan, businessmen invented the "decompression room" for people who can't hold their breath and have nowhere to vent. People who come to the relief room have to pay according to the cost to get all kinds of ceramic vases, utensils or figurines. Guests usually write down the names of their enemies first, swear and throw the figurine on the wall. ?
However, although throwing things and kicking furniture can temporarily relieve anger, many people are beginning to worry that it will turn into violence. Some experts believe that if you don't notice the subtle changes in your mood, but keep venting, in fact, anger is not really digested, but will form bad habits and relapse. ?
Therefore, experts suggest using the "emotional thermometer" method. Get into the habit of recording emotions at ordinary times, and record them in several time periods every day, and write down the reasons for being angry. This kind of training is helpful for self-awareness and anger detection. ?
1. Set the scale of the mood thermometer to 0~ 10, and divide the day into seven segments. For example, I failed to grab a parking space early in the morning, quarreled with the department manager in front of the elevator before entering the office, and decided to give myself only 2 points. ?
2. After knowing the ups and downs of your day, ask the reason and write a paragraph for yourself. Why give yourself an 8? It turned out that at three o'clock in the afternoon, I heard birds singing outside the window and felt very happy. Recording for a long time will naturally cultivate a very subtle perception, even if the subtle emotions in life drift by, they will not let go. ?
Establishing your own emotional thermometer can better grasp the time and reason of frequent anger. Once you are close to the emotional high temperature period, you can get ready quickly and warn your colleagues to stay away from you to avoid being burned by the nameless fire. In addition to detecting emotions and finding your own emotional thermometer, you can also learn to look at life's setbacks from a big framework, so that you won't be really angry. ?
Easy work
● Dream less and plan more?
Think clearly about everything about your ideal career, from the form of work to the working environment, and then determine the standard or purpose of the career you are pursuing. The specific method is to divide the ideal career into the shortest possible stages. ?
If you find yourself a junior manager or just a bookkeeper, you must find a promotion path that can help you reach another position. You can see if you can transfer to another department, or get a lower position first, and then find opportunities for further study; At the very least, we should find out the unfavorable factors that hinder our future development. Remember, step by step is the best way to change unsatisfactory work. ?
Think of yourself as a free man?
Imagine yourself as an independent contractor, your employer is a big customer, and then allocate your time reasonably, so as to meet the needs of customers and give yourself room for development in all aspects. For example, your job is to draft various report documents. The quality of words may not matter to your boss, but what about you? As an independent contractor, you should be aware that the wording skills you use may open up a brand-new sales market. This ostensibly pleases your boss, but actually pushes you to the position of independent contractor. ?
● Work and play are right?
Some people only know how to work hard at their posts. At first, I worked overtime for an hour or two at night, and soon I worked overtime all week, and finally even weekends became office hours. ?
In fact, work became a savage who occupied all his time. Such people have little social activities except work, so after a long time, they will inevitably feel disgusted with their work. ?
● Looking for success outside of work?
Take your hobbies and extracurricular activities as seriously as you do your work, and be proud of it. Today, many people only regard the achievements in the office as real success. In this way, these people will only be complacent when their careers are booming, and they will be agitated once they encounter trouble at work. If you have other things to be proud of besides work, it is easy to keep a positive attitude when your work is frustrated. ?
● Change your attitude towards others?
If you are afraid to go to work every morning, one of the reasons is probably that you don't get along well with your colleagues around you. Although you don't like working with them, at least, you should live in peace with them. When you smile at others in the elevator, others will smile back at you, and so will you in the office. Treating people with courtesy is the basic principle of being a man. It is unrealistic to want to establish intimate relationships with people who are usually ignored overnight, but if you really improve your relationship, your colleagues will feel this sooner or later. If you are tired of everything around you-your job and your boss ... you should communicate with people in a positive way and talk about things you like. At least you may find some similarities with your colleagues. ?
In short, the world will not treat you the way you like, nor will it play tricks on you in the way you don't like. Fame and prestige are earned by yourself, and it is beneficial to learn to love your career.