How to educate children to know the privacy of the body, incidents about children being sexually assaulted often occur, and how to protect their privacy parts, we must tell children which parts of the body are private parts and which parents should pay attention to and do well. The following share how to educate children's physical privacy?
How to educate children about their physical privacy 1 How to teach children to protect their physical privacy?
I have accumulated some experience in the research of children's [sex] health education, which parents and kindergarten teachers can refer to: draw boys and girls on a piece of paper, let the children draw them themselves if possible, and draw them by parents if the children are young.
After painting, let the children mark the private parts of the boys and girls with a red pen. Don't say "private parts" directly when using words, because children don't understand, but say "invisible and intangible parts" so that children can understand and follow your instructions.
In my experience, some children can correctly mark the private parts of boys and girls, but there are still many children who are not clear about these parts. Their private parts are eyes, hands and feet. These children have no sense of privacy, so they have no sense of self-protection. In the process of making children mark, they are actually helping children to establish the concept of protecting their privacy.
After the child marks, if it is not correct, parents should help the child understand it correctly and tell the child that you can't just look at and touch the private parts of others' bodies.
A kindergarten teacher told me such a thing: when a girl's mother bathed her child, she found that her child's genitals were a little bruised and asked her child. She also said that sleeping with a boy next to us made us really dizzy. Fortunately, there was nothing serious about the girl's examination later. We apologized again and again, and the boy's parents beat the boy, and the girl's parents stopped.
In kindergarten, such things happen from time to time, so for children over 3 years old, such education can be carried out. In addition, in this incident, we can see that both the parents of boys and girls have failed to do their duty to help their children. Boys are beaten and girls may be scolded. They still don't know how to protect their privacy. Beating and scolding children is the performance of parents' incompetence, and it is also the simplest and rudest way of education! After this incident, kindergartens should educate children in this area.
Parents should also tell their children that if someone touches their private parts, they should tell their parents immediately. Many children don't know how to do this, so criminals have repeatedly harmed children.
Now there are more and more sexual assaults on boys, so it is also important to educate boys to protect their privacy.
Before, I talked about satisfying children's desire to understand the adult body. Now I talk about teaching children to protect their privacy and not to expose their private parts casually. This seems contradictory, but it is not. In the education of children, I think we can satisfy their curiosity first, and then educate them to protect their privacy, so there will be no conflict.
How to educate children about physical privacy II. How to teach children private parts correctly?
The frequent occurrence of sexual assault cases has made many parents feel that it is impossible to prevent. I wonder if parents have found that it is actually very difficult to keep children away from or even afraid of strangers.
First, because [sexual assault] cases mostly happen to acquaintances, not so-called "strange uncles".
Second, it will make children afraid of socializing. In fact, what we have to do is to build a line of defense for children from the most fundamental and conscious aspects.
Help children establish a physical bottom line.
The lack of children's knowledge about sex safety is the main reason why children are violated. Teaching children to have a sense of [sex] safety is actually very simple: the place covered by clothes and underwear can't be shown to others, nor can others touch it.
Parents should first let their children know about their bodies and know the names of various parts, including which parts are the most important and private. Don't look and touch them at will.
For children, drawing is the easiest way. Show the children the pictures below, tell them that the parts covered by shorts and vests are "not allowed to be seen and touched at will", and let the children point out which parts of the pictures are private. This is much better than parents trying to explain what private parts are.
In fact, children's lips, ears, chest and neck are places that others can't touch at will. Parents in China like to let their children be "hugged, patted, hugged and kissed" by their relatives and friends to show their love. Even passers-by don't stop kissing and cuddling children, and they don't care about children's resistance. Just teach them to be obedient and kiss.
But it is precisely these behaviors that may make young children not understand their rights boundaries. When parents are not present, they mistakenly think that sexual assault and molestation by other elders and strangers is a way of showing love, and they think that they should be "obedient". So I chose not to resist.
In addition, of course, we should also tell our children not to touch other people's private parts. If children ask why we can't touch them, we should tell them in time that this is uncivilized behavior.
Parents can clearly tell their children that if you feel uncomfortable with any touch or contact from others, you can say "no" and immediately try to "walk away". Even if someone holds your hand, kisses your face and touches your head.
Establish children's sense of crisis
A good sense of crisis is more important than letting children know their private parts. For children, private parts are still a new concept and knowledge, if there is no good sense of crisis. These concepts and knowledge are like empty floors without foundation, and they can't really protect their own safety.
So, how to cultivate children's sense of crisis? What parents need to do is actually to remind them more in their daily lives. For example, tell children when they are taking a bath: "Now mom/dad can look at your body and touch your body, because we are your closest people and can clean your body;"
When you get to the hospital, under the supervision of your parents, doctors and nurses can also look at your health, which is to treat you. But beyond that, others, no matter who they are, even our relatives, can only touch you with our consent and your own will. "
It is worth noting that 70% of child sexual abuse cases are committed by acquaintances, which means that children's awareness of prevention is not limited to what we often call "strange uncles". In order to give children a safer and healthier environment, the establishment of correct consciousness should first start from parents.
Tell children how to face threats.
In a large number of real cases of child [sexual] abuse, a very common reason why children do not choose to tell their parents is that they are threatened. If you dare to tell your parents, I will kill you/your parents.
Including one time when we were carrying out activities for our children, even though the children knew their private parts clearly. But when we ask, "If you dare tell Mom and Dad, I will kill you." Many children choose not to tell their parents.
Therefore, parents must emphasize to their children: "You can lie when facing the bad guys, and don't believe what the bad guys say. Mom and dad will protect you. As long as you tell the police uncle, the bad guys will be caught! "
Being sexually assaulted is not the child's fault.
Every child has a sense of covering up his mistakes. When they feel that they have done a bad thing, they will choose silence or lie to keep it from their parents. When children are sexually assaulted, many children don't know that they have been sexually assaulted, but there is a feeling that this seems to be a bad thing and can't be known by parents. They might get angry and hit me.
Therefore, parents need to tell their children: "If someone touches your private parts, don't be afraid. This is definitely not your fault. Be sure to tell your parents when you get home. Mom and dad won't hit you or scold you. You are my parents' favorite baby. On the contrary, parents will encourage you to tell us about it. "
How to educate children about physical privacy 3. General principles of physical contact
1, parents should tell their children that everyone's body belongs to them and should be respected;
2, you can touch the body, but touching some parts is not suitable for public places;
Don't touch other people's bodies at will. If others object in the process of contact, we should stop it in time.
4. Don't touch some parts of others;
5. No one can touch his private parts except his parents, close caregivers and doctors;
6. If anyone's contact makes you feel uncomfortable or "wrong", even relatives and friends have the right to stop.
Second, let children establish privacy awareness.
1, some parts of the human body are more special than others and should not be exposed;
2. Some things are not suitable for public places, but they can be done in the bathroom or your bedroom;
3. Men and women are different. There are some things that men and women should do separately.
4. Privacy is not bad.
Third, how to answer children's "strange" questions
1. The child pointed to his parents' reproductive organs and asked what it was. What should he say?
The baby is unconscious. You just need to tell him what it is and what it is for.
2. Can I take a bath with my children?
A: Of course. Bathing with preschool children is also a kind of sex education, because you can teach children a lot about the human body through parent-child bathing. When the children grow up, don't want to take a bath with you, or start to have some resistance, it's time to stop the parent-child bath.
3. Children will lift girls' skirts. What should I do?
A: Preschool children are always curious about what they hide, which has nothing to do with pornography. At this time, parents can ask him what he wants to know and tell him that everyone has something that others can't see, except when mom and dad help you take a bath. If someone looks at your penis, be sure to tell your parents. Sister wears a skirt just so that no one can see it. Of course you can't.
4. Why do boys pee standing and girls pee squatting?
Answer: Tell the child directly because the sex organs are different.
Why can't you hug your relatives?
A: Others may feel uncomfortable doing this. Don't be forced if others don't want to
6. Why can't we just touch girls?
A: If people don't want to, you can't just touch every part of your body. Your body is the same. If you don't want to, no one else can touch it.