The key to building a healthy interpersonal relationship is not necessarily what you have done, but the other person's experience in your relationship.

The key to building a healthy interpersonal relationship is not necessarily what you do, but what the other person experiences in your relationship and how he experiences himself in your relationship.

People are gregarious animals, interpersonal communication is the basic need of people, and interpersonal relationship is also the key to affect a person's quality of life and happy experience. Therefore, how to establish healthy and high-quality interpersonal relationships is worth exploring and thinking by each of us for a lifetime. The process of interpersonal communication is essentially a process of mutual satisfaction and value exchange between the two sides. According to Maslow's demand theory, human needs have a development level from low to high.

Low-level needs are physiological needs, while upward needs are security, love and belonging, respect and self-realization. According to this theory, physiological needs are the most basic needs and desires of human beings, and human beings will not be satisfied with the needs at the bottom. After the lower-level needs are met, they will develop to a higher place, which is the same characteristic of human beings.

Key factors affecting communication:

1, mentality mode

The so-called mental model refers to the mental state that we inherit when we communicate, and it is the default background sound when we communicate. The subconscious will automatically match and choose according to the cognitive differences of the communication objects. Generally speaking, everyone has three modes of mind, namely, inferiority mode, pride mode and peace mode.

2. Self-image

It is undeniable that people are visual animals, and our external image is an important factor affecting the quality of our interpersonal communication. The process of interpersonal communication is also a self-marketing process. The shaping of self-image is like the packaging of products. The purpose of packaging is to create a happy mood for the other party, so as to be interested in you and willing to know you.

3. Listening skills

If I can only recommend one communication skill for you to learn, I will choose "listening" without hesitation. This ability is too scarce and important, but it is often ignored by us. The improvement of listening ability is not an easy task, and it needs our constant and deliberate practice.