Getting too close to each other is definitely a disaster. Kindness will not grow teeth sooner or later.
Some time ago, I saw such a video on the Internet: an old father worked hard to bring up his children, gave him money for marriage, bought a house, but in the end no one cared.
Someone asked him why he gave all his money to his children. If he saves some money for the elderly in advance, the children will not forget him because of the money.
He looks helpless and miserable. "If the child cares about me, can I not give it?" ?
As soon as my voice fell, my eyes turned red. Until now, when writing this article, tears once again blurred my vision.
If nothing else, there are many such sad cases in our hometown.
The old father and mother, like an old cow, worked tirelessly for their children for most of their lives, but in the end they ended up unattended.
If you have some money in your hand, at least when your child has no hope, life will not fall into a situation where there is no way out.
Have pity on them and take out the money early, so that no one has no money.
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Don't love too much and don't stay up too late. If you push too hard, you can only get hurt in the end.
When Muzi first got married, she felt that everything was wonderful, she lived happily with her husband, got along well with her parents-in-law, respected her parents and wanted a lovely child.
Her mentality must have been experienced by many women.
Until one year after marriage, Mu Zi found herself being bullied, and her mother-in-law didn't take her seriously at all.
She was pregnant, and her mother-in-law's arm hurt to avoid cooking, and she secretly went to the square dance behind her back at night. She was pregnant and wept while cooking.
When a relative got married, her mother-in-law told Mu Zi that she was pregnant and was not suitable for the wedding reception according to local customs. Also told her that if she was free, she would wash clothes at home. Always fooling around is not good, which is not conducive to having children.
It was not until she learned from a cousin that there was no such custom in her hometown that she suddenly froze and found herself being bullied without restraint.
It's a pity that she has been so kind to her parents-in-law. No matter what she buys for her parents, she will buy one for her parents-in-law, and she will only be bullied.
She told her husband these things. Fortunately, her husband didn't protect his parents indiscriminately, but felt that Mu Zi was wronged to follow him.
A few days later, they rented a house outside. Mu Zi is no longer as filial to her in-laws as her daughter used to be. She begins to keep a certain distance from her in-laws.
She thought her in-laws would never talk to her again. Unexpectedly, they began to review their past behavior and called them back for dinner every once in a while.
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People, in order to get real happiness, must maintain a kind and optimistic character.
However, excessive kindness, not only can not get happiness, but will push yourself to be ignored and bullied.
Unless you are willing to be a masochist, you must let kindness grow teeth.
Respect is mutual. When faced with unfair treatment, please put away your goodwill decisively.
Be kind to people who deserve to be kind. An unworthy person is unworthy of your kindness and dedication.
Please be kind to yourself for the rest of your life.