The essence of "reverse parenting" is reverse education, which was originally an educational method, referring to the way of provocation or irony to resolve the resistance of the educational object and promote its epiphany in order to achieve the educational goal.
First, this method is more suitable for parents' corrective and persuasive education of their children.
Under the premise of grasping the degree, it is a good way to let children choose to "educate" themselves with their own behaviors. Some children go to school in the morning and lack tension, often because their parents are in a hurry. If parents are slower, after being late once or twice, the children may be more anxious. It can be seen that in this way, letting children suffer some losses and reflect on their own shortcomings is helpful to make changes actively, which is more useful than parents blindly preaching.
Second, the orientation of "reverse parenting" should be a special way of education.
When a person is young, he knows nothing about everything in the world and needs the protection and education of his parents. "Reverse parenting" can exercise children's independent ability and cultivate their empathy ability, but it needs to proceed from reality, not mechanically, and be used flexibly according to children's different personality characteristics.
Third, "reverse parenting" should be based on seeking common ground while reserving differences.
Everyone has his own values and limitations, and children are no exception. Parents should listen to their children's opinions and give due respect to their children's alternative demands that conform to the trend of the times and have positive significance. This is the best parenting education. However, any move has shortcomings. If "reverse parenting" is used too often, it is likely to lead to the lack of children's psychological growth. Children may look at their parents' faces too much, suppress their inner feelings, and easily develop a likable personality. Therefore, "reverse parenting" also needs to be properly handled, and positive guidance cannot be neglected. Only by playing "combination boxing" well can children grow up healthily and happily.
Fourth, reverse education is not bad, but it needs to be enough to grasp the scale. Some detours, we can't give the children away, let them feel it for themselves. We just need to be with them and leave the rest to the children to experience.
In short, children's personality characteristics are varied, and family education methods should be varied, and the right one is the best. According to the specific situation of children, we should pay attention to active guidance and companionship, and properly use "reverse parenting" to raise better children.