Haohao likes small animals very much. He wants to keep a puppy at home. He discussed with his grandmother whether he could get a puppy at home. Because they live in a commercial house, his grandmother didn't promise him because she was afraid that raising a puppy would affect the rest of her neighbors next door. The child was a little angry and began to contradict his grandmother. He said, "why can you keep goldfish at home, but I can't?" You are unfair! " So he began to cry and refused to come to kindergarten. Grandma was helpless and took him to kindergarten.
After listening to this, I explained to Hao Hao that there is a difference between keeping a dog and keeping a goldfish. Dogs can run and bark, but goldfish can't run and bark. But he just wouldn't listen and kept crying, so I took Haohao to the classroom and let him play with other children. Then I took his grandmother aside and told her not to satisfy him blindly. We should satisfy him properly and reasonably, and then talk to him about Haohao's performance at home. When we finished talking, I saw Hao Hao coming out of the classroom, as if he had figured it out. He offered to apologize to grandma. Grandma was very happy and stroked his head and said, "That's right. Grandma will take you to RT Mart after school. "
Children in small classes are younger, and most of them can't fully understand the mood and purpose of their elders; Sometimes elders can't consider problems from the standpoint of children, which will lead to conflicts with children, children will contradict elders, and elders will feel sad about their attitude. Haohao's attitude towards elders can be said to be worthy of recognition. Not only did he get the praise from his grandmother, but he also benefited a lot: he went to RT Mart. But if he can talk to grandma calmly when negotiating with her, she will definitely be happier.
When there is a conflict between the child and the elder, as the elder, you should not get angry because of the child's words, yell at the child and reprimand him authoritatively. This kind of reprimand or criticism will increase children's psychological burden, distort their mentality, and their self-confidence will disappear. He may start to feel sorry for himself, feel sorry for himself, give up on himself, dare not do anything, gradually set limits for himself, lose courage and be timid. In a word, this kind of reprimand and criticism will directly hurt children, cause huge ideological burden and seriously affect children's life.
I suggest that all elders should control their anger when their children contradict themselves and explain to him calmly and patiently. If the child can't stop fighting or eliminate contradictions at this time, the elders might as well stop and hide in another room, leaving the child alone. You will soon find that he will stop in less than two minutes, because no one around him is paying attention to his words and deeds and no one will listen to him. After a period of cold treatment, children will regret it and apologize to their elders. At this time, what the elders have just done has been achieved. If the child can't clearly feel his mistakes, then the elders should actively and patiently communicate with the child, help the child understand the mistakes, find out the problems with him, and solve the problems with him. After careful guidance and education from the elders, I believe that children will gradually understand, slowly overcome their weaknesses and grow up healthily.