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One day, God created shellfish. He asked the shellfish, "What kind of life do you want?" The shellfish replied, "I want to live in peace and security." God said, "well, I'll put you on the bottom of the sea." Here, you will get the stability you want. " Therefore, shellfish can only live like this for a lifetime: open the shell, close the shell, open and close, open and close ... it sees the colorful reflection of sunlight in the water. Although it is eager to see the outside world, it can't. With longing and regret, Bei spent his life like this.
The next day, God created the eagle. He asked the eagle, "What kind of life do you want?" The eagle said, "I want to live a free life." God reminds: "Freedom means challenge and change, and change means that life is not guaranteed, so you need to use your own ability to get food and escape from the enemy." The eagle said, "I am willing to pay any price for freedom." So the eagle spread its wings and flew freely anywhere. It fought against wind, rain and thunder, and saw warm wind and sunshine. It always faces all kinds of severe challenges and enjoys the gift of nature. I have no regrets in my life.
On the third day, God created man. He asked, "What kind of life do you want?"
Now it's your turn to tell your own answers. I am sure that you, everyone who listens to me, will not be willing to be a shellfish. You are eager to change, to be free, and to live a wonderful life in this limited life!
We are all endowed with free bodies by God, but do you have a free heart eager to dominate your own destiny like an eagle?
We often hear the phrase "Attitude is everything"! In this book, what we share is: 15 attitude of changing fate.
What is attitude? Attitude is people's evaluation and behavior tendency of things.
There is a proverb in the west: grow or die! There is not a tree that we can see that is not growing. But we often ignore a problem-we use three meals a day to maintain the growth of the body, but what about the growth of the soul? If we can also study with the mentality of "hungry and not eating", then we will definitely embrace a brand-new self, a successful self beyond expectations!
Take learning as an example. There are two completely different attitudes towards this. One is: "Yes, you don't have to study when you leave school!" " "In fact, going to society is the real beginning of learning-the test of learning effect by society is no longer to look at scores, but to look at your smile or blood and tears, your success or failure. Therefore, if you want to suffer less setbacks in society, the attitude of "lifelong learning" is worth recommending.
Below, let's learn the 15 attitude we should hold in the face of life. They will help us to succeed faster!
If you take 100% responsibility for life, life will smile at you.
First of all, answer a question: Are you satisfied with your present life?
→ Answer A: Satisfied!
Congratulations, you can manage your multiple roles perfectly, such as son, husband, father, friend and employee. You are a person responsible for yourself!
→ Answer B: Not satisfied!
Maybe you will say "I almost succeeded", "I wish I had made that choice", "I wish my parents had bought that house" … Don't keep making excuses! It's not someone else, it's not bad luck, it's you! Who can change the status quo and reach the ideal state of life? There is no other savior, only yourself!
The following specific methods can enhance your sense of responsibility for life, so try to operate it:
00 1 If you are used to sleeping late, you might as well get up early today 1 hour and read a few pages.
Make/buy a nutritious breakfast, chew slowly and think about today's main task plan.
003 Keep the appearance dry and tidy, and check that there is nothing missing with you.
004 smiled in the mirror and said: I, only I, am responsible for my own life.
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A day's plan lies in the morning, and starting from small things will gradually enhance the sense of control over life. When faced with a choice, simply consider the consequences of different choices, which one is more beneficial to you, and follow its instructions.
Self-control is the instinct of the strongest.
Everyone has heard the story of "the race between the tortoise and the hare": Although the hare was fast, he fell asleep halfway. We know that this turtle actually wants to sleep. But it used self-discipline to restrain itself, so the tortoise-rabbit race had a sacred ending: the tortoise won.
There are two kinds of pain in the world, one is called "self-discipline pain" and the other is called "regret pain". Why are there always a few winners? Because most people have difficulty in self-discipline, they always covet the comfort and enjoyment in front of them, and eventually they can't achieve their goals or even go downhill, thus suffering from "the pain of regret."
Self-discipline allows us to give full play to our advantages:
Studies have proved that each of us has 3~5 kinds of talents. If we give full play to them, we can succeed in a certain field. If talent is compared to water, it will often make water flow on the ground without knowing it and get nothing. In order not to waste talents, we need to drink water with cups. Here, water is a gift, and the cup is a self-disciplined character. Even if you don't have much talent, that is to say, your water load is only half that of others, as long as you have a cup, you can succeed faster than others.
Self-discipline makes us healthier;
Those who encounter major setbacks and disasters may be more self-disciplined-for example, those who have suffered from myocardial infarction and survived by luck, they struggled back from the brink of death, and their instinct for survival made them willing to endure the "pain of self-discipline", give up the warm bed in the morning and stretch their limbs to exercise. There are still some people who can't quit smoking all their lives, but a disease can make them "smell the color change" and even become experts in persuading others to quit smoking.
Don't underestimate what self-discipline can bring you, nor what others can achieve through self-discipline.
Here are some ways to maintain self-discipline, which may seem simple, but it is actually more difficult to do:
Do it, do what you have to do!
If you are disturbed by the outside world, find a quiet environment, turn off your cell phone and concentrate on your work!
Without the focus of life, time will flow away from your hands like sand.
Everyone thinks about a question: "Are you busy today? What did you mainly do today? Do you have anything to do today that you haven't finished? "
For Xiaoming, today is really tiring. Look at the steps on WeChat, which has reached more than 20,000! But he will work overtime tonight until 1 am! Why? It turned out that Xiao Ming needed to complete a project planning plan today, but his girlfriend asked him to go shopping with him, and he agreed without thinking. But the plan submitted early tomorrow morning can't be delayed, and we have to work overtime at night.
Yes, if we can't get to the point, our time will disappear without a trace. Only by grasping the key points of daily life/work can we relax, finish with high quality and enjoy every process.
Time is the same wealth that each of us has. We have heard the Law of 28, which says that 20% of people hold 80% of the wealth in the world. In fact, there is another explanation for the 28 th Law: in our daily life, only about 20% of events determine our success or not. If personal success is the goal-oriented, then these 20% events can be regarded as the daily focus.
The following success list will help you find the focus of your life faster:
Take a piece of paper and fold it into 1/5 and 4/5. The first 20% of the space can be filled in: what can be done to achieve the goal/success; Fill in the following 80% of the space: less important schedule activities. At the same time, in the daily time allocation, 80% of the time can be concentrated on successful events; For those urgent but unimportant things, you can use your spare time or send others to help you finish them.
Don't sit still, discover the power of personal goals.
Let me ask you a question first: "When was the last time you set a goal? Birthday or New Year's Eve? Have you achieved all your goals? "
I believe that maybe someone will answer, "I forgot what kind of wish I made!" " "
How can we achieve the goal if we forget it? Setting goals and plans is the vanguard of our work, so we have to spend a lot of energy on setting goals. As for the suffering without goals, I believe each of us has a deep understanding. Give me an example of myself. When I buy clothes with my friends, I always come back disappointed. They asked, "What kind of clothes do you want to buy?" I looked blank: "I don't know, just wear it!" " "So, I don't have my favorite dressing style, and I don't want to try a new style. Until now, I have nothing to do with fashion!
Here, I tell you three points to guide you how to find important goals.
00 1 think about it and list ten goals you want to achieve.
Choose the three most important goals from the above ten goals.
Write down the detailed reasons why you want to achieve these three goals.
For the last three goals, I hope you can be as detailed as possible. If you are studying, you'd better finish two books a week 1 week instead of 1 year 100! After determining the important goals, in the process of implementation, it is inevitable to be questioned by people around you and even yourself, and hindered by the outside world. Please regard them as an indispensable part of the road to success, just like the scenery on the roadside.
Try to do nothing, try to touch yourself.
Let me tell you a story:
During World War II, the qualified rate of parachutes in the US Air Force was 99.9%, which means that one parachutist in every 1000 will die because of unqualified parachutes. The military requires manufacturers to make the qualified rate reach 100%. The person in charge of the manufacturer said that the qualified rate of 99.9% is the limit and cannot be broken. Is that really the case? The military changed the inspection system, and the person in charge of the factory parachuted before each delivery. Then, a miracle appeared, and the qualified rate of parachute reached 100%.
Many times, what we do for the limit is just to do our best. But did we try our best? Don't! Of course, 99.9% efforts are not enough. If we are satisfied with this data, it means that many failed operations will occur every week, and the bank deposit and withdrawal system will make frequent mistakes ... so we must work hard and pay 100% effort!
Many people hold the misconception that our level is not high and we do not need to work hard; In fact, we must work very hard to reach a high level and create the Guinness Book of Records within our own ability!
How to do the best, the following methods hope to help you:
If your inertia is to keep 60 points; Now, please work harder and reach 70 points; Please jump on the basis of 70 points and try to reach 80 points ... You need to keep improving and take everything seriously as a work of art!
The only constant in this world is "change"
Let's start with a story: A coach of the German national football team named Jurgen Klinsmann adjusted the whole concept of sports during his term of office and used training methods he had never seen before, which was unanimously criticized by the whole country. The whole media world has rolled up a storm that seems to destroy him. But he resisted the pressure and let the team win the World Cup again and again. With the success of the team, the original critics later planted the German flag on the car and became the biggest supporters. The coach became a public hero. When he announced his retirement, people said that they could not imagine what the German national football team would be like without him, and they all asked him to stay.
Closing the door to change also closes the door to a better life. You will be surprised only if you welcome change. Of course, in the process of change, you will go through these four stages, namely: criticism, ridicule, acceptance and indispensable. In the face of change, stands a monster called "fear". Only by defeating it can we reach a new world.
Drive away fear and try to change. With the gradual accumulation of small successes, our self-confidence will continue to increase. If we can break through the psychological comfort zone, we can do this; So, why can't we do other things well?
Psychological relief of change:
If it changes, something better may happen; If the change fails, then we still maintain the status quo. Since being idle is also idle, change may bring better results. Why not give it a try?
Do not grow, or die.
Let me share a story with you first: Last Spring Festival, my uncle in his 60s sighed, "Alas, you are still young. Study hard anyway, because I don't know if it will come in handy in the future. " This uncle is not a successful person. He likes gambling all his life. Although he has entered old age, he still hasn't given up this hobby. But his heartfelt words-"Never too old to learn" made me feel deeply.
Shakespeare famously said: To be or not to be, that is a question. Similarly, what kind of attitude we should take towards learning is also a question worth thinking about. There is a proverb in the west: grow or die. Not studying means that the soul stops growing, which means spiritual death. Therefore, this proverb can also be adapted as: learn or die?
Now, let's change the topic: What is the guarantee for your future? In other words: Who will be responsible for your future?
Is it your boss? Because they pay you every month; No, they don't care whether you live happily or not, but whether you provide them with value.
Are they your parents? Because they always shelter you from the wind and rain; No, they can't protect you forever. One day, they will get old and even need your care.
Who will be responsible for your future? Only yourself! It can only be yourself! While you are working hard, you also need to keep learning, keep improving, and put the same energy into personal development.
I have four suggestions about learning, which I hope will help you:
00 1 expand the knowledge field through books, audio books, seminars, tutors and other channels.
We should not only understand theoretical knowledge, but also apply it to life practice to generate strength and value.
Winners can teach us methods and experiences, while losers can help us avoid the deep pit under our feet.
Plan B in everything, don't risk being cornered, but make a variety of backup options.
The only reason you work is to serve others.
Let's look at two cases first:
Case 1: a tutor only serves 1 student, and the salary is about 2000 yuan/month; A high school English teacher, sharing knowledge with a class of students, earns about 6000 yuan/month; Yu, president of New Oriental, has built a platform for all those who want to learn foreign languages in China. His salary is unknown, but we know that it is no exaggeration to describe him as "rich"!
Case 2: A flower shop serves nearby residents every day. If the profit from selling a bunch of flowers is 20 yuan, then the profit from serving 30 people a day is 600 yuan; If you serve 100 people a day, the profit will reach 2000 yuan.
From the above cases, we can draw a basic rule: work is to "provide services to others"-for the sales staff of clothing stores, it is to provide clothing services to customers; For the copywriting of advertising companies, it is to provide product recommendation services to customers ... At the same time, the more people you serve, the higher the quality of service, and the higher your income return.
How to do a good job?
00 1 adhere to the principle: provide the promised service with the promised quality within the promised time.
Enthusiasm: Passion for the people we serve, what we do and ourselves.
Remarks: In this era of fierce competition in all walks of life, in order to retain customers, what we have to do is to provide products and services that far exceed customers' expectations.
Fun makes people shine like sunshine.
Let me ask you a question first:
Is your job interesting?
I believe many people's answer is: "No fun, work is just a job to make a living". Then I will ask, "Did anyone force you to do this job?" "Why tie yourself to something boring?"
The state of doing things with interest is very different from that of doing things for money. Interest can make people as bright as the sun; Without interest, people will become a cold pot. So, even if what you do is profitable, don't let yourself do a job for a long time because of money. Unless you can get some pleasure from your work, it won't be "hard labor" for you.
Trust your heart and listen to your inner voice. At work, find the fun and sense of accomplishment; Find a pleasant way to get along with your partner; In the communication with friends, choose interesting and beneficial friends ... In short, don't live for others, please create and enjoy all the beauty in life according to your own wishes.
How to discover the joy in life?
Write a Thanksgiving diary.
002 diary of success
Observe life with a grateful mind, and you will find that there is a lot of fun in life and the quality of life will be higher and higher.
The rope saws wood, but water drops stones.
You can't cut down a tree at once! Lack of persistence is the main reason why many people fail, because they choose to give up prematurely. We must firmly believe that with persistence, there will be rewards sooner or later, but the rewards usually come later, so please wait patiently.
Tell a story about "persistence": One day, Socrates gave his disciples an assignment to do one thing and shake hands a hundred times a day. After a week, he asked how many people still insisted on doing it, and 90% people insisted on doing it. A month later, he asked again, now there is only half left. A year later, he asked again, there is only one person who persists now, and that person is Plato. As a great philosopher in ancient Greece, Plato's success must be inseparable from his persistence.
Take a closer example: In the female model circle in China, many people regard their eldest cousin Liu Wen as their idol. She was born in an ordinary family in Hunan, with no background and no professional courses. She drifted from an early model to a foreign language all the way, and failed in interviews frequently. 20 17, 165438+ 10, Liu Wen ranked eighth in the Forbes model income list with US$ 6.5 million (about RMB 43 million).
Persistence is our inseparable partner on the road to success. On this road, difficulties are inevitable. Faced with obstacles or dead ends, we need to stop and think about three ways to solve the problem. After the demon is removed, go forward again.
Of course, on the road of persistence, we sometimes hit the south wall. At this time, we need to adjust and change our goals and strategies. On the way to persistence, we will get good advice from the losers, who are sincere and hope that we will give up as soon as possible and join their failure queue. Remember, you can only listen to what they say.
How to insist on doing one thing?
00 1 The goal is clear, but it is too high and too low, which is operable.
Make a detailed plan and get a sense of accomplishment in stages.
Learning, learning and learning are two questions, and it is a fool not to learn or ask.
Have you ever gone to a strange place and followed your feelings, only to find that the direction is completely opposite, wasting too much time and energy?
Yes, if you can ask passers-by for directions at the crossroads, you can not only enjoy meeting and talking with strangers, but also find your own direction most conveniently and with the least effort. Of course, we should not ignore that it is exciting to ask for help from others and offer help to others, especially when there is no cost.
We are afraid to ask questions because we are afraid that others will say "no". But "no" does not mean negation, but means that it cannot be done under certain circumstances, and so on.
So, if you need anything, ask it. The quality of your questions determines the quality of your life.
How to ask questions?
00 1 Smile and ask questions sincerely.
002 language is concise and to the point.
Good health is 1, and everything else is 0.
Take out a pen and paper and write down five things that you think are most important at present. Maybe, you will write: find a lover, have a cute and smart baby, and make a lot of money … but don't forget one thing: have a healthy body.
I believe no one will deny the importance of the body. But as this sentence says: "I have heard a lot of truth, but I still can't live this life." We know that health is very important, but in our daily life, how many practical actions do we really put into health?
One of the main culprits of unhealthy eating is eating incorrectly-for example, eating too much and eating unhealthy. Therefore, we need to adhere to a standard, that is, "eat enough, but don't overdo it." If you don't eat, you will die, and if you eat too much, you will shorten your life. In a word, besides eating, we humans also harm our health by being lazy in sports, smoking and drinking. These stupid behaviors, we are deeply involved and don't know it.
If you are unfortunately ill, here is an interesting health belief thinking, hoping to help you:
When you feel unwell because of the flu and headache, say to yourself, "This is only a small case, but you can't beat me"; Those, your pain will gradually dissipate in the invisible; If you say to yourself, "My health defense system is so poor, why do I always catch a cold …", then your illness will gradually erode your will and eventually crush you.
Regarding health, here I give three suggestions:
00 1 Eat 7 minutes full every time: Especially at dinner, if you eat too much, go out for a walk and do exercise to help digestion.
002 Keep exercising: Exercise at least 5 times a week and do high heart rate exercise for 20 minutes each time. For example, doing yoga while watching TV.
Drink more hot water: drinking four or five liters of water every day instead of sugary drinks will help eliminate toxins from the body and maintain gastrointestinal health.
Your specialty is a seed, you should raise it well.
Why is Apple computer so popular? Undeniably, one reason is its unique and concise white design, which gives people a feeling of extreme business. For Apple, the simple appearance of white is the "personality" and "professionalism" that distinguish it from other computers.
Come on, reflect on yourself. Are these words "it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter, it's all the same" your mantra? If you are always so indifferent to life, it is impossible to explore your own strengths, let alone play your own strengths and let it serve you.
Each of us is pregnant with a seed called "specialty", but we haven't given it a chance to break through the ground. The longer the seeds are neglected, the harder the soil will become, and it will be difficult for these seeds to germinate, let alone grow.
To be irreplaceable, you must find your own personality and use it to serve others.
You must have special skills, and it's not too late to start training now. So how do you find your own strengths?
00 1 List your likes and dislikes.
002 Organize the successful records of the things you like.
If you find your own specialty, just keep pushing forward and don't worry about your opponent. Your life is your life, and your life is only your own responsibility. Don't care too much about what others think. If you still care, then you are keeping your heart in a golden cage, and this bound heart will hinder your progress!
If you don't believe it, your words will be consumed; If you don't believe you, you will fail.
Let's imagine a scene: when you are buying a product, you have a good impression on the salesperson of store A, and if the salesperson belittles the competitor brand B, will you still buy the product of A? I don't think you will, because her total denial of product B is also a subversion and denial of your previous cognition. You will feel unhappy and even rush to your favorite brand B immediately.
I know that the people who come to listen and share today are honest and trustworthy people. I naively thought that all the people in the world were honest, trustworthy and kind. It turned out to be wrong. In the Jiangge case, I can't believe there is such a person as Liu Xin. In the workplace, I have also met people who take their promises seriously.
What is trustworthiness? This means doing what you say; Even if you are not rich or famous, you should still take every word you say as an oath. You are one of the stars, but if you are honest and trustworthy, you will shine.
Trustworthiness is the trump card feature in a personal brand, and an honest person will always use "keeping promises" to restrain himself. Because of "breaking faith"
Lifelong dishonesty. "Because of occasional dishonesty, this person can never be trusted.
Regarding keeping promises, I would like to extend one point here, that is:
Stop speaking ill of others! Gossiping about others is like catching a "computer virus" in your brain, which will make you lose your discrimination and think with prejudice. We should praise our friends, our bosses, our colleagues and even our competitors.
Today's sharing is over. I hope it inspires you. I know, everyone understands the truth, but it's really hard to do it! What are we going to do? We can't eat fat at once. We should start to accumulate from small progress. For example, if you are hungry and ready to eat something, can you give up the barbecue and eat a small apple?