How to control yourself and resist temptation!

Dear friend, ask a friend: the reason why a person can't resist the temptation is often because he is driven by a strong curiosity. For example, the more I don't want to see it, the more I don't want to know. In fact, this is also a manifestation of people's "rebellious psychology". Of course, this curiosity is not all bad. Like Edison's invention and Columbus's ocean exploration, aren't they all driven by curiosity? However, curiosity does sometimes bring trouble and harm. The main reason is their blindness or lack of understanding of bad temptations. Often only know its interesting side, but not its harmful side, at least not known. For example, people who participate in gambling often don't think that losing will cause psychological blow to themselves, or even lead to madness, which will also bring contradictions and conflicts to families and cause social unrest; Even if you win, you will develop the bad habits of laziness, luck and ruthlessness, and develop the habit of not thinking about thrift and spending money at will. It will also make family relations tense and social contradictions intensify, which is not good for your mental health and that of your loved ones. Therefore, to resist bad temptations, we must first improve our recognition ability, enhance our "immunity", and grasp the advantages and disadvantages of things, especially when someone opposes something attractive, we should listen more and see more, and then decide to choose after calm thinking. More importantly, we should strengthen the exercise of will. Because an important reason why many people can't resist the temptation is the lack of willpower. It's not that they don't know the harm, but that they can't control themselves and lack self-control. In this regard, we can use a variety of methods, so that we can overcome the temptation in will. On the negative side, you can avoid a bad situation and cut off contact with bad friends, which is conducive to Du Jue's temptation. Of course, the intrusion of various temptations is independent of people's will, and often comes suddenly and quietly. This requires us to wake up the alarm and beware of delays. In addition, you can also use "simulation training", that is, imagine being in a specific environment and imagine ways to deal with it. In other words, you can imagine simulating all kinds of temptations and how to deal with them. For example, what if someone gives you money to open the back door? The more concrete you imagine, the more handy you will be in real life. Through this kind of training, you can get a whole set of behavior patterns in your imagination, thus enhancing your confidence in resisting bad temptations. On the positive side, we should cultivate noble interests and resist the temptation of low. A person with a correct purpose in life, noble thoughts and rich spiritual life can effectively resist all kinds of bad temptations. Because these temptations are contrary to your own interests, you must overcome them if you want to realize your ideals. You can also consciously resist all kinds of bad temptations through "self-motivation" training. For example, write a motto and always encourage yourself; Keep a diary frequently and conduct self-monitoring in the diary; And "verbal command" means learning to command yourself every time you encounter temptation. Through oral command, you can organize your own psychological activities and gain spiritual strength to resist temptation. It should also be mentioned that, generally speaking, when there is a tense psychological state, self-control will often be lost or weakened. In this way, we can eliminate the tension in time through some "relaxation training" already introduced before, and then improve our control ability and ability to distinguish right from wrong, which also plays a certain role in resisting bad temptations.