I have been introducing a book to my parents these days. This book is called Appreciating Your Children. Mom and dad didn't take it to heart at first. Yesterday, my parents accidentally found this book on the Internet, so they read it all at once. My mother said to me, "after reading this book, my feeling is only two words' shock'!" I also deeply understand your good intentions! "
This book tells the story of Isabella Chow, an expert in education. Isabella Chow said that he "unfortunately fell down and was lucky to pick up a treasure". Professor Zhou unfortunately gave birth to a deaf-mute daughter. In the process of educating his daughter, Professor Zhou realized that education and life are inseparable. We not only respect our children, but also look at them from the perspective of life, which inspires our love for life and the pursuit of life value. Under his admiring eyes, my daughter grew from a deaf-mute with no self-confidence to a confident girl. In the world of sound, she can communicate freely and live freely. /kloc-became a young college student at the age of 0/6 and was named "Top Ten Teenagers" in China.
As long as I can remember, there have been few "sunny days" at home since the third grade, because my mother always suspected that my academic performance was not good! In the mother's eyes, the only way for a girl to get ahead in society is to study hard, go to college in the future and gain fame. Under our current education system, the whole family is full of complaints and scolding. Parents pull a long face all day, but happiness, liveliness and self-confidence are far away from us.
Yes, how much we need mom and dad's encouragement and praise, even a word! I can never remember my poems. Through hard work these days, I finally made some progress. My mother said to me, "Yes, there is progress." I clapped my hands and said happily, "Mom, you finally praised me! I must learn poetry in the future! " After listening to my words, my mother was almost in tears! A casual compliment will greatly increase our confidence! You haven't looked at your children with appreciation for a long time. When we were young, it was this kind of eyes that surrounded us and filled our hearts with warmth. You haven't praised your children for being smart and beautiful for a long time, which is exactly what we really need.
Being good at seeing our advantages and not stingy with words of praise will not only make us happy, but also make you happy!
Appreciate your children, appreciate our progress, and make us confident forever, so growth is more important than achievement! Give our children more encouraging words, more trusting eyes, more understanding smiles, and more kind touches! Then, we will grow up happily!
Reading grew up with my mother and me.
It never occurred to me that my mother, dubbed by my father and I as a "cultured and talented person", was defeated in front of me one day at the age of ten.
That day, I watched my classmate's Robinson Crusoe at school, which was very interesting. When I came home from school, I rushed to my mother as soon as I put down my schoolbag and said to her, "Mom, do you know who Friday is?"
Friday is my brother on Saturday. Mother put down the book and said casually.
I was in a hurry, grabbed my mother's book and said solemnly, "I don't even know Friday." I tell you, Friday is a person, a character in Robinson Crusoe. "
"Robinson Crusoe does have such a book. I have heard of it but haven't read it. " Mom said.
"Such a big man, you haven't even read this book, and you are out." Unexpectedly, my mother, who knows everything in my eyes, has never read this book, and her tone seems a little contemptuous.
My mother didn't speak, just smiled at me and thought.
When I came home from school the next day, I found a brand-new Robinson Crusoe on the coffee table in the living room. My mother sat there and said with a smile, "Son, yesterday my mother candidly admit defeat, and today we will PK again." "That night, my mother and I talked until midnight. I'm so happy. My mother finished reading the book in just one day. My mother is really something.
A few days later, while reading a book, my mother said to me, "Son, do you know who Pavel Colta King is?"
I have never heard of this man, and I am at a loss. Mom smiled. Ask again: "Do you know ostrovsky?"
Because my mother speaks quickly, that name amused me. I shook my head and asked where my mother was from.
My mother was very mysterious and said with a smile, "Do you want to know? The answer is in this book. " She took out a book from behind, entitled How Steel was Tempered. I was anxious to know the answer, grabbed it and read it hungrily. From this book, I got to know Paul and Zhu ... I remembered the famous saying, "Life is the most precious thing for people ..."
In the days to come, my mother and I often PK the feeling of reading. Under the influence of my mother, I am fascinated by red works; Under my guidance, my mother became fascinated with children's books. Reading grew up with my mother and me.
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Forgive others and be happy.
My son is in grade five this year. He has always been good at school and is also very smart and lively. I never need to worry. But recently, I don't know what happened. I always feel depressed and preoccupied when I come home from school, and sometimes I have scars on my neck or hands. I know something must have happened at school. But I asked him several times, but he refused to say.
One day, the child came back depressed with several scratches on his neck. I know, something must have happened at school. I took his hand and sat on the sofa and asked him softly what was wrong. His eyes are red, he told me. It turned out that there was a man named Han Tao in their class, who studied poorly and was very naughty. In class this afternoon, when the teacher was away, he hit my son on the head with a book and said, "Can you hit me in a fight?" When his son didn't say live, he pushed his luck and knocked his head and said, "You said live." His son said, "I can't beat you." Seeing that my son didn't want to fight with him, he tore up his book. When the son was in a hurry, the two men fought, and as a result, the son was caught several times on the neck. After listening to the narrative, I was heartbroken to see my son wronged. I couldn't stand being bullied like this, so I said to my son, "Mom will take care of this for you. I'll go to school to find him tomorrow." If he dares to bully you again in the future, you will give him a good beating and make trouble for you! " . I didn't take it to heart when it was over.
One day, when my son and I were reading in the library, we came across A Good Mother is Better than a Good Teacher written by Yin Jianli, a famous education expert. I borrowed it home and studied it carefully. When I saw the character of "tolerance" in the third chapter "A clever mother must give her children twelve personalities", I knew that the way I handled it last time was wrong. When a child is bullied, parents should first investigate the truth of the matter and then negotiate with the other parents and teachers to solve it. Don't impulsively scold each other, let alone let the children fight back with their fists. On the long road of life, frictions and conflicts between people are inevitable, and calm handling is the best policy. The way mothers deal with problems in childhood will leave a deep impression on their children and have a great impact on their lives.
So I found a suitable time to talk to my son. I said: Does Han Tao still hit you now? The son said, "Don't hit me. He ignores me and I ignore him." I said slowly, "Actually, my mother was a little impatient when she handled this last time. Later, I made an investigation. Han Tao was joking with you that day. He is not interesting, but a little naughty, not as sensible as my son. I know that Han Tao is so naughty because he has never had a mother since he was a child, and no one has ever disciplined him well. Look, he's pathetic. Even if he accidentally made a mistake, we should forgive him and help him correct it, don't you think? " The son nodded sensibly. When I saw the child come to his senses, I further educated him and said, "Gold is not enough, no one is perfect, and human nature inevitably has shortcomings and deficiencies. There is absolutely no need to seek perfection in dealing with classmates and friends. As long as the shortcomings of classmates and friends are not qualitative and antisocial, there is no need to care about everything. Forgive people once more, give people more tolerance and understanding, you will find a good mood for yourself, and you will feel that you have taken another step forward on the road to perfecting your personality. " Then one day, my son told me that Han Tao forgot to bring his pen that day, so his son gave it to him so that he didn't have to return it. Han Tao was very grateful to him and thanked him. Since then, the two have become good partners. My son is no longer preoccupied, but has become that happy and lively child again.
Tolerance is a very precious emotion, which is of great significance to the healthy development of children's personality, especially their emotions, and the establishment of good interpersonal relationships. Teaching children to learn tolerance is not only for their getting along with classmates today, but also for their future happiness. Of course, parents should let their children know that tolerance is not cowardice or blind obedience, but a concession to classmates and friends after distinguishing right from wrong, not a compromise to bad people. Therefore, parents should teach their children to be tolerant, tolerant and happy.
Lay a heart and realize your dreams.
-some thoughts on family education
Family education is the cornerstone of school education and is related to the success or failure of education. Every parent should study it as a life topic, and the flower of education will bloom more brilliantly.
First, educate children to be charming but not flattering, strict but not cool, let go but not vertical, and teach without reprimanding.
Children are parents' pets, and it is human nature to spoil them, but they should not be spoiled and let themselves go. Without rules, Fiona Fang can't be Fiona Fang. Parents should set an example and educate their children strictly, instead of adopting simple and rude methods. It is unscientific to have a dutiful son under the stick, because after the passion, it not only hurts the feelings between the child and the parents, but also makes the parents regret it. We should give children some free space and time for self-control, but we should grasp the ideological direction of children so that their behavior will not deviate from the norms and develop happily and healthily. When educating children, you should convince others with reason, convince others with reason, and don't be overbearing and reprimand them loudly.
Second, educate children to be "three heavy and three light".
1. Pay more attention to the process than the result.
The development and growth of children is a gradual process. They are young, inexperienced, weak in distinguishing right from wrong, tempted by unhealthy social phenomena, and their thoughts and behaviors tend to deviate from the track of healthy development. On the other hand, learning is characterized by poor initiative and the psychology of completing tasks. Parents should observe diligently, find out early and guide more to protect their children's healthy growth. Children's thinking is correct, their enthusiasm for learning is high, and their academic performance will come up. Therefore, there is no need for parents to be too serious about their children's academic performance. It is enough to do a good job in the development of your children.
2. Pay more attention to communication than preaching.
"Although my body doesn't have bright phoenix wings, I feel the harmonious heartbeat of the sacred unicorn" is a famous sentence written by Li Shangyin, a poet in the Tang Dynasty, which describes the soul mates of young men and women. Physiologists believe that due to the inheritance of genetic information between parents and children, their spiritual communication is far more direct and tacit than that of young men and women in love. Talk to your child before going to bed, take a walk with your child after dinner, and play with your child in your spare time. You will soon enter their hearts, and you will know what they are thinking and where their confusion lies. I believe you are only one step away from educating your children. And those inappropriate soft muttering and hard nagging that are divorced from children's thoughts will definitely make children bored. They will bury their true thoughts in their hearts without telling you, and educate their children to become a tiger that eats the sky and has nowhere to bite their teeth.
3. Pay more attention to vertical development rather than horizontal comparison.
It is natural and normal for a child to walk all the way from babbling, and the growth trajectory is rarely a straight line. Most of them go around or even go backwards at a certain time or several times. As parents, there is no need to be nervous and anxious. Getting up after falling is a child's greatest feature. This kind of rolling and crawling will make them stronger, stand straighter and more stable, and walk faster and farther. Parents should pay attention to their children's unyielding and stubborn, pursuit and dream, and the light of reason in the hard journey. Whenever and wherever, you should tell your children that you are the best. With your encouragement and encouragement, your children will certainly step on difficulties and walk well all the way. Every child has shortcomings. Don't take other people's children as arrows, compare them with your own children and say that children are not good or bad. Everyone has self-esteem, a child's naive mind can't stand your blow, and his high-spirited mind is likely to be wiped out in the bud inadvertently.
In short, high-quality family education requires parents to have broad love and high enthusiasm to satisfy their children's hearts and let them grow up healthily in a harmonious and happy environment full of trust.