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Whether it is falling in love or getting married, it is not difficult for many people. But how to make a relationship healthy, stable and long-lasting, and how to make a relationship harmonious and happy, requires wisdom and skills.
If you don't know how to operate, you don't know how to get along. Then a good start, a good love and a good marriage are all a mess for you. Of course, there are many skills in love and marriage, and here are just a few of them.
First of all, put yourself in others' shoes.
If you understand that it is not easy to be a man and do things, then you will naturally understand your other half, and it is not easy to understand your other half. He may work hard, he is under great pressure to make money outside, she works hard at housework, and the children work hard ... If you think from the other person's point of view, you will understand his anxiety or neglect of you occasionally, and you will understand that he is sometimes not romantic and considerate enough.
When everyone is lazy and tired, don't blame him for doing some little things that make you dissatisfied, but think from his standpoint: if you are yourself, aren't you as good as him? This will avoid many impulses to blame each other, because always blaming each other will definitely affect your feelings.
Second, respect each other.
This is also very important, whether it is love or marriage, even if it is not such an emotional relationship, it is just an ordinary friendship or family relationship, and it also needs mutual respect. If you don't know how to respect each other, treat each other as your slaves and think that being with him is a gift, then he has to listen to you, follow you and listen to your arrangements.
Then the other person may be obedient at that time, but his heart will feel uncomfortable, and the emotions that have been suppressed for a long time will also erupt. And his love for you will gradually decrease because of your disrespect for him. At the same time, everyone needs face and self-esteem. Give each other enough respect in front of outsiders, and he will respect, appreciate and love you more.
Third, learn to be grateful.
When two people live together, they will definitely pay for each other. Don't take it for granted, learn to be grateful. A simple sentence: "You have worked hard" or "Thank you" is actually useful and necessary. Don't think that you can treat each other casually by living together.
Your gratitude will make him understand that his contribution is not insignificant, but meaningful, valuable and valued by you, so that he will have the motivation to continue to pay for you and continue to be good to you. Of course, it is the same to contribute to this family. Always express your gratitude and gratitude to him, and he will work harder for this family.
Fourth, praise each other.
Praise each other is also essential. Children like to listen to praise, which will make them more motivated. In fact, adults are the same. Praise your partner more, and of course praise your ideas. Let him know that he is not bad, let him know his own advantages and strengths, and let him give full play to those advantages and strengths in your praise.
Only in this way will he appreciate you and you will face better and better partners, because proper praise is a good incentive.
Fifth, review yourself.
Everyone has faults, everyone has shortcomings, and everyone has imperfections, so don't always think that others are bad or wrong, don't find fault, or blame each other unkindly and ask them to correct. But to see more places where you are not doing well enough.
Occasionally review yourself, correct yourself and make yourself better. Only by doing yourself well enough can you have the right and qualification to ask the other party, and then you can point out what the other party is wrong. This is also called setting an example. If you do well yourself, it will subtly affect your other half and make him as good as you.
In short, two people together will definitely influence each other, so some skills must be understood. If you do it yourself, your partner will become better because of your state. If you do well and the other person is in a mess, then you can only consider changing others.