Jealousy, others have! I don't
Why be jealous of others! Why be jealous. Some people! Yes, other people from wanting to not even think what is jealous! No, jealousy. Thought others, in jealous of themselves! People like that! Are themselves see themselves as total old life! Kind of boss! Actually, they're not jealous! There is a dream, is in the last year, right! One night, really did a real, also became a reality appeared! Dreamed of a! He's probably older than me! It was by the look of it! In the dream! That person, too, for me was giving it a fight like something! There were a lot of people! I was in the crowd! That guy! One moment he passed in front of me! He's coming in front of me! That's a terrible smile! I didn't smile at that guy! No smile at all! I didn't even look at him! And then I woke up without realizing it! I didn't realize I was waking up! He looked the same as he usually does! I went out to play! I saw that guy! The moon is so dark that it pinches out water! He's got a good mouth on him! His face was so ugly! He's always so upset when he sees me! I don't care! I even smiled and brushed it off! Afterward, I thought silently! What's the reason! I don't even know this guy. I don't even know him! Why did he act like that? After a while. I was dreaming again, without realizing it! As if in the air, suddenly, someone said! It's not you now! It's a pity! Where people go to come! It's not you! I saw that one in a dream in a place, a city! A big, famous city! A man, dancing in a square! After waking up! Think! It's really strange! What do I care if I dance or not! Why do you dream? It's like a dream! It's been a long time since then! I was watching TV! I saw that guy in Beijing Square! There were a few people! He was dancing in the square! It didn't last more than a few beats! I remembered it at the time! It was strange! That's how I got the dream to come true! But to this day, I can't figure it out! Why would you want to hurt me in a dream? It doesn't matter what time it was, or what time it was, or what scene it was! I don't know! It's never been the same! Why do I have to be involved in this? Really, I have nothing to do with that man! Only in the morning! Playing! Standing on the sidelines of a square dance in that group of people! A few times! It was juggling! I've never been there before! What all feel what! Really too ridiculous!
When others have something and you do not, others still in front of you to show off, at the moment others to meet the vanity, and you have a jealousy.
It is normal for people to be jealous, but it is important to have self-control.
If you lose your mind, mental distortion, this is a serious jealousy, it will destroy everything.
In fact, it is all about our own mentality, control our emotions and reason, from the positive side to consider the problem, look at life.
Jealousy is a very common psychological, a mountain is always higher than a mountain, people are more popular than the popular people, than when you can't, there will be jealousy, but some people have strong self-control, can control their own mentality, and immediately allow themselves to be in a positive state of mind, to catch up, to go beyond. And some people, the mind is easy to collapse, more fragile, that they do not have the ability to catch up and beyond, so that the will of the demoralized, psychological distortion.
When you go to school, students always like to test than the results, and when you find that no matter how hard you can't surpass the goal you set for yourself when your classmates, your heart will surely produce jealousy, and then think that their own opportunities or talents do not go to the people, such a state of mind at that time certainly let you inner torment. And now it seems to think that they are really stupid, when less you do not know how to manage emotions, resulting in a mess of their own emotions, and now with the increase in experience, think back then really unnecessary.
In fact, the heavens are fair, when you close the door to you, inevitably open a window to you, everyone has their own advantages, in comparison with others, take the long and make up for the shortcomings, to play their own advantages, and with a positive mindset to adjust their own, will reduce their own jealousy, so that they can become more outstanding.
Jealousy is the oldest human emotion: a tendency to endure pain to see the happiness of others. This mentality is innate, and it's there regardless of your life experience.
It is inherent in the prescriptive nature of envy that the envious person does not allow others to be better than him or her, and loathes, hates, and damages others if they are better than him or her. Therefore, Kant believes that envy is "the antithesis of virtue, the negation of the understanding of human feelings". Kant was at the forefront of the study of the psychology of jealousy, and others could only annotate and play on his ideas.
Animals also have jealousy, but human jealousy is much stronger. This shows that human beings have a very heavy sense of distinction. Every year when the social equalization wage is announced, we will complain: I am dragging the leg of the society and being averaged out. However, we only distinguish between feelings and phenomena, and we are not interested in distinguishing between the intrinsic value of high-income earners and the logic of their high salaries. This will cause people who are too jealous to have inner peace and always torture themselves in the pain of resentment.
@MedusaGoldenEye said: Jealousy is a mechanism that has evolved through the long history of human superiority and inferiority, an evolutionary mechanism, so it is beneficial to people. This is a typical evolutionary psychology point of view , right or wrong can not be judged.
@Abin's Dream mentions Kant's view that "envy is the antithesis of virtue, the negation of the passable human feelings", which is supposed to be Kant's view when he talks about the moral law. Although this point of view seems to be a bit of a stretch, but we all carry the shadow of this point of view deep in our hearts, and it seems to be implied in our childhood education.
From everyone's point of view, basically most people answered from a psychological point of view. That is, jealousy is normal and a result of evolution. But then it seems to use the Kantian perspective when mentioning that excessive jealousy is bad.
It's true that jealousy is a very common emotion, and it's true that it does us a lot of good by making us try to outperform others. But it's also an emotion that can get out of hand a lot of the time and can be harmful to others.
As Kant said, it can also be the antithesis of character? Why? Because an educated person, a person of character, tends to control his or her level of jealousy and just let it spur him or her on. Whereas a small child, or a savage, selfish person, may allow jealousy to grow wildly, with no regard for the interests of others, but only for his own. Anyway the word seems to be used less and less, because I think maybe people are getting better, and jealousy is becoming less common.
Finally, I looked at the questions and realized that we all seemed to have answered the wrong question, and everyone answered the question about the rationality of jealousy. And no answer to the question why is there jealousy? This may be the unanswerable question that belongs to the black box and can never be made known. We can only answer it with the most superficial things.
@TheManInTheSleeve says that jealousy comes from psychological imbalance, which means that we see someone else being better than we are, so we become unbalanced, and jealousy arises, reflexively. It's a conditioned reflex that has evolved over time and is engraved in the DNA of human beings. When we see strong sunlight, we close our eyes, conditioned reflex, we can only explain it this way.
Jealousy of the psychology of human evolution through the natural formation of a mechanism for the protection and development of normal human emotions, as long as the scope of moderation, can promote the growth of the individual, from the psychological level, jealousy is a kind of self-esteem upward manifestation, as long as the moderation is not to bring adverse effects.
Jealousy, from the point of view of human psychological development, the earliest possible age of jealousy is 16 months to 24 months, this time the child feels that he or she is the "world's first", not afraid of anything, he or she is the best, very narcissistic, that is, injured, but also do not care about, and continue to move forward.
If the sense of omnipotence in this period is not satisfied and recognized, then adults will continue to seek to satisfy this sense of omnipotence, the formation of pathological narcissism, so no matter what other people have, as long as they feel that they do not have or is not good, they will be jealous, and want to find a way to "destroy and damage" each other or things.
So, accepting the shortcomings and shortcomings, being able to express sadness and grief, anger, and other people's excellence is worth learning, slowly the negative impact of jealousy will be weakened.
Jealousy, stems from the fact that one's own desires are not fulfilled but one sees others fulfilling the desires one wants.
Its essence is the competitive instinct of living beings. It's not bad in theory, it's only the unacceptable things some people do because of this idea that makes jealousy repulsive. But the fact is that most people are jealous of others. This is very normal, and those who are not jealous of others are the exception.
Why do people become jealous?
Jealousy refers to the people to compete for certain rights and interests, should be united with a kind of indifference, disparagement, exclusion, but also hostility to the psychological state, so once the indulgence that may produce jealousy, it makes people feel sad taste. What are the circumstances under which people become jealous?
One: Jealousy stems from competition in the same field
Jealousy is hierarchical. Only two competitors in the same field of competition can have jealousy and jealous behavior. Between a man's multiple spouses, between a woman's multiple suitors, between two competitors for a position, in order to fight for the first place in the examination between classmates, between colleagues, the same field of competition and often in contact with the two people tend to outbreak of intense jealousy between the psychology.
People will only be jealous of their own performance in the same field of competition than their own strong people, and will not be jealous of their own in the field is not in a field of people, and will not be jealous of the same field of competition than their own weak people. Snow White was envied by her stepmother, the Queen, because she was more beautiful than the Queen in the field of competition of who was more beautiful.
Two: Jealousy stems from a sense of superiority that has been destroyed
People are jealous only when they have a sense of superiority and are surpassed by others, if they do not have a sense of superiority, they will only be manifested as inferiority complex and envy. For example, when a child sees another parent holding their own child, he or she will be envious, but not jealous. But when they see their own parents holding someone else's child, they are not happy about it. Why? Because it does not have any superiority in front of other people's parents, but in front of their own parents have absolute superiority, this is the most obvious child jealousy.
Three: Jealousy comes from the combination of the monkey king mentality and the revenge mentality
Every one of us is born with a strong sense of self-esteem, i.e., we are the 'monkey king', and we are the most important, which is the monkey king mentality.
The information that one is not as good as others, that one is not the strongest person, can seriously frustrate the monkey king mentality. The human mechanism of retaliation dictates that people will take steps to retaliate against that person, and it's very normal to physically and verbally harm the superior person.
I think that envy is a lack of acceptance of one's own lack, and has nothing to do with the person being envied.
Others have and I don't. Others will and I won't. Others can and I can't. These stimulate an inner sense of scarcity that must have been a very bad experience for him at one time or another, causing him anxiety, and so he must do something to relieve it.
On the bright side, jealousy is really a pursuit. If your jealousy is translated into action, it is benign "jealousy", but if you fail to deal with it internally, you can easily go into the abyss of jealousy, or even hatred.